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Hints for the mind:
- Anticipate the Sexual Encounter. Many find that if they spend some time fantasizing about an upcoming sexual encounter, they can use their imaginations to turn themselves on both physically and emotionally.
- Get Relaxed. Some women require a period of down time in order to open up to receiving sexual pleasure why? Emotional tension interferes with sexual response. Being in a relaxed state of mind is helpful to reaching an orgasm.
- Eliminate Distractions. Is your mind cluttered with distractions? You know privacy, is there too much light in the room, what about noise, are the pets in the room, etc. If these distractions are taken care of before sex then she can focus more on her body and good feelings, which will make it easier to orgasm.
- Eliminate Anger. When you are angry with your partner it is harder to engage in sex as anger puts distance between people. In order to feel intimately connected to their partner a woman usually needs to eliminate the anger and hurt feelings.
- Be Comfortable With Your Body.The key to good sexual responsiveness is to appreciate and accept your body. Sexual response and the ability to orgasm can be interfered by obsessing over body imperfections.
- Have an Erotic Focus During Sex. Put the mind in an erotic mode to boost physical arousal. This can be done with some imagination or by watching what your partner is doing to you, or even by looking into each other’s eyes. This may be difficult to do as many women close their eyes to concentrate in order to reach orgasm.
- Concentrate. As arousal builds up, most women need to concentrate on the pleasurable feelings (especially the ones in the clitoris and vagina) as well as their growing excitement. Concentration is necessary for many to reach orgasm.
- Don’t Worry About Sexual Performance if You Don’t Orgasm with Vaginal Intercourse Alone. Many worry that they do not perform well if they don’t reach orgasm by just vaginal simulation. Remember: Most women don’t orgasm without other stimulation; like clitoral stimulation during intercourse, this is O.K.
- Make a Time for Play!! Quite often, people leave sex for late hours; this is when the body just needs to rest. It will be easier for the woman to orgasm when she is feeling more energized and isn’t so tired and weary.
Physical Hints:
- Know Your Body. To reach orgasm reliably, some women find knowing their own body to be essential. If one does not know their body then they do not know what touches, etc? are most pleasurable for them. If you know your body then you can teach your partner what you like.
- Make Sure Your Partner is Hitting The Spot. Now really, if it’s not on target you aren’t going to orgasm. Guide your partner to the right spot and also say what you like.
- Communicate Openly. If your wish is to sexually satisfied then, open communication is the key. People are not mind readers, verbal works best but you could guide your partners hand to where you’d like just as well.
- Work With the Sexual Tension. Physical arousal makes muscles tense up in both sexes, however it is more noticeable in women. If you exaggerate muscle tension it may help trigger an orgasm.
- Squeeze the Muscles. Contracting the PC muscles helps bring blood the area and builds arousal. Squeezing these muscles can help trigger orgasm and make it more intense.
- Hang Your Head Over the Edge of the Bed. Apparently, this can help trigger orgasm, may heighten arousal and sexual tension. Why? This will distract you from trying too hard and may make it easier to orgasm.
- Breathe Differently. That’s right, if you vary your breathing patterns it can add to sexual arousal and trigger orgasm.
- Be a Tease. By teasing yourself, or allowing your partner to tease your pleasure spots (withdraw the touch over and over again) this is an effective way of building arousal and orgasm.
- Practice. It’s true practice makes perfect. If you practice (by yourself), especially if you are the type that doesn’t like losing control, this will help. Try making the sounds and faces while practicing as this may help increase comfort and also help in the process of learning to orgasm.
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